yo ho yeah i’ve gotten i think like one piece of anon hate which was basically “i’m unfollowing you. should have done it sooner” and although it was not in anyway nice to receive, it also didn’t hit too hard because it was so vague and kind of silly? like, people unfollow me all the time unless you have a specific criticism why are you telling me this? i can see the number go down? thank you for the written resignation?

i think if it had been a little more personal and a little more reasonable it would have hurt a lot more, but there’s a difference between hate and genuine criticism and the latter (while imo harder to deal with) is something that you should take to heart to a certain degree, and reexamine yourself and what you said, and see if they have a point/if you could have been misconstrued/etc. i may in fact be a dick sometimes, and if someone points it out to me i owe it to them to check myself before i wreck myself

there’s a balance between taking all criticism really hard and also between blowing it off and going ‘i am awesome in every way fuck the haters’ like yeah, the second one may make you chiller but you will grow less as a person so i think the healthy place to be is in the middle

if you’re sure of yourself and your opinions then i think pointless hate’s pretty easy to disregard, but if you’re not (and personally i go up and down depending on what mood i’m in) then it can cut deep. a good thing to help out with it, though, is talking to friends/other people about it and having them have your back or validate that, yes, in fact you are cool as heck and the hate in question is ridiculous